What is the perfect training environment for you? You know that environment when you feel like you are a plant and you’ve got the right soil and plenty of water, warmth, and sunshine so you feel like you’re growing a little bit everyday and you are confident that very soon you will be flowering…..the perfect environment to grow right?
However sometimes when creating the perfect training environment you either need to choose to be on an island, and other times you may need to be in a community.
For me, i need a bit of both. I like to work often alone, whether it be studying, preparing for an event, or training. I kind of enjoy the calmness, like in a meditational state, so that i can focus on the task at hand without distractions. So in this case i like to be on an island.
But then other times there is a certain comfort and definate advantages to being in a community that gives encouragement or compliments, acknowledgement and constructive criticism - all things i also need to help me grow and flower as a person. So in this case I need to be surrounded by piers, mentors, good friends and family. Which means i also need to be surrounded by a community.
In a lot of cases when creating the perfect training environment it is easier to have a community, but only if it is the right community of course. The right community would be surrounding yourself with a group of people that challenge you. This could mean having training partners that have a higher level of skillsets than you. You can learn a lot more from people that are more advanced in those skills that you desire to improve in yourself. If you choose to train with a player of a higher skill set, you need to make sure that you are motivated to get to their level, but not overwhelmed by trying to beat them all the time, they are after all more advanced than you are, which means they’ve more than likely been at it for longer than you, so don’t compare, just be challenged to improve.
The same goes if you are fortunate enough to have a chance to train with an expert level player. You must learn from them, don’t get discouraged, because more often than not, the reason they got to where they are is because they worked their butts off to get there, and that can often be beneficial to you because you learn realistically what needs to be offered of yourself to get to the top.
You need to be motivated to improve, which can only come from inside of you. But sometimes to keep that motivation fueled you need inspiration that can come from the community around you. Having people around you that want you to improve can be encouraging and help keep you going. For example, If the weather is bad and you are feeling a little lazy and are about to say to yourself, ah, I’ll take a break today, but then, RING RING... your buddy Larry phones you up and says let’s go work on hitting wedge shots into the wind from different lies and then play a round after. You all of a sudden have a choice, say no and maybe feel a bit lazy or say yes…..if you say yes, I guarantee you’ll enjoy your decision and you may just have taken one small step for mankind....but one giant leap towards improving your skills!
Surrounding yourself with the Larry’s of the world can only help you in your quest to improvement because the Larry’s of the world are motivated, and their motivation can only rub off on you!
Playing a sport or training with people that are better than you will constantly challenge you to play better than what you thought you could and if you have a slump, you will be encouraged to keep on going because believe me, anyone that has skills at a sport has been through slumps and more importantly lived through them to see another day.
Surrounding yourself with a community of positive people just makes your life easier as well. Being surrounded by negative people can be draining on you, so if you find yourself feeling drained or even being negative yourself, get a new community. Negative people tend to make a lot of excuses for themselves and are generally searching for there own happiness which is often very result oriented. They don’t see the process involved in improvement, and can be very judgmental and find small victories in pointing out your mistakes instead of acknowledging your skills and good shots or rounds. It is not your responsibility to give them their happiness by making you feel bad, so move on and get into a community of growth minded people that look at the process involved and let you make mistakes without making you feel bad about yourself for doing them. Making mistakes is part of improvement and definatly part of a growth environment!
I believe this is the number one reason why I enjoy training by myself, because as a golf coach, there are judgemental eyes everywhere on a golf course. People just love to remind me in the clubhouse of that one shot out of ten that went off into the woods and tell the story to their buddys. It for some reason makes them feel good about themselves, and of course drains me, because I’m constantly reminding them of their good shots, and their constantly reminding me of my bad. There is infact a law in the country that I live in that says we shouldn’t believe we are something, and if we do, vigilanty’s are lurking around every corner just waiting for the first opportunity to put you back in your place……I suppose this makes me an outlaw!
You can’t avoid negative people in total, but you can change your own environment. This is the environment I’ve chosen to work in, trying to inspire others to be their best is what I love doing. As a coach it is not my job to get better, it is my job to help others get better. Having the strength to not care what others think is a skill that can be learned, i’m still working on perfecting this skill myself, and believe me, it sometimes isn’t easy when the vigilanty’s are lurking and just love knocking you back in your place. But I think this only helps me understand more the importance of this skill, so that I can share it with you. But the truth is that being worried about what others think only pulls you down into a result oriented way of thinking. Don’t worry about what other people think of you, you can’t change them, but you can let go of the fears of failure by focusing on the process involved in developing your skills. This will only be a benefit to you in the longterm.
For you as a player you need to surround yourself with the right community to help you grow and develop into your best.
You need to be self motivated so that you do what is necessary to improve. You need to build a community of inspiring people that let you grow and flower. Get out of results and envolved in the process.
You are after all who you think you are, so get in an environment that helps you to be who you think you are!
"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It’s not. the worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. "- Robin Williams
Surround yourself with positive people!
Thank you for reading this and I hope it has helped you with some tips on creating the perfect training environment!
By for now!
Coach Adam Stevenson
PGA Professional &
TPI Certified expert
Student of life!
Author of the Golfers Handbook - Save your golf game and you life!